Thad’s

Im telling yah man thads is Bull Shit! I’ve gone there 3 different times and came away with nothing! I mean almost all the time your seeing nothing but dicks Woman are usually wearing there night gown shit so you know you aint gonna see shit every woman there is basically covered up almost 90% of the time their either look at your muscles or looking at your package seeing if it big enough for them… Every time I went I got nada nothing weather it was Halloween spring break Christmas or New Years the Bar tenders are Asses basically say what you want and if you dont tip your an ass then you go upstairs and watch from the spy windows 3somes and your jerking off Pathetic man! I spent 3 Benjamin Franklin thinking that I was gonna get my money worths and I got noda Man Im tell you single Guys Man it aint worth it Man Just go to TJ man wayyyyy better and your guarantee to get Pussy man IK I wish I had done this instead spending 300 on a basically porno movie making film reality show! AINT WORTH IT GUYS! Don’t do it!
THEY SHOULD HAVE IT EQUAL IF WOMAN WANT TO WEAR CLOTHING THEN MEN SHOULD AS WELL!

We always have a good time when we go. I would say this is the most relaxed environment for lifestyle lounges. And a lot of interracial couples which is a plus for us since we are one too!
Upstairs there is a couples only room which is nice. pete does a great job of making sure there are only couples and not these lame ass boys everywhere.
All I can say about these places is you’ll have a good time IF YOU RELAX and LISTEN TO what people say. If I say I am not looking for a single guy… don’t whip out your dick and ask me if I changed my mind. No. I havent. Go get a girl and come back to talk to me.

update:
So I went last week for the Comic Con party and the place was lit. Alot of new faces (I even bumped into someone I knew outside of there, lol. It was only weird for a lil bit though;))All and all, the party was as I expected it to be and even more. Near closing, an extremely famous guest appeared (pornstar) with an entourage of guest (hot pornstars)… I can’t name names due to rules and whatnot but msg me and i’ll give you the full details of how it all went down. but yeah, needless to say, the closing time got pushed way back as everybody enjoyed themselves.
There are a couple of people that go to this club and end up not having a good time and i would say they didnt heed my advice. Anytime you come to a club like this acting like a weirdo, disrespecting females, the staff, or anybody for that matter, you are going to have a bad time. Someone got tossed out of the club for «doing to much», lets just leave it at that.
Also, if you decide to bring you girl here, make sure you explain to her what kind of place this is, she doesn’t deserve to be blindsided and no one wants to hear you bitch about the aftermath (shots fired).
other than that, things are still the same, this place is still filled with friendly guest and staff and its still the place to be on a weekend (or weekday if your inner freak can’t wait).

This was our first time to Thads. Myself I have been to many lifestyle clubs and this was my girlfriends first time. Regrettably she will probably never want to go to another lifestyle club after the experience she had here last night. We chose this as our first lifestyle club to go to together because they have been in business for over 40 yrs and had a decent reputation. When we arrived the front dest girl was polite and explained the rules. We walked down to the bar and I was immediately shocked to see that there were at least 20 – 30 single guys walking around with erections and cock rings on with out a woman in sight. I made light of it to my GF as we made our way to the bar. I wanted her to be comfortable and so we grabbed a drink and went outside hoping to find some other couples to hang out with. Upon going outside we only found more single guys. It was astonishing that all these guys were just hanging out here like this with only a female here or there. It seriously had to be a 20 – 1 ratio. After going outside we made our way to the couples only area thinking there was going to be a separate lounge area where the couples were going to be hanging out. On our way there we had to go down a long hallway lined with naked dudes on both sides. I was feeling a little uncomfortable and could barely walk by without accidental foreign penis contact :(I can only imagine how my GF felt walking down that hallway. We get into the couples only area and come to find it was maybe 2 rooms with about three couples all fucking. No lounge or area to just relax. On top of all that, the place literally looked like it was 40 yrs old and had 40 yr old dirt. It was comparable to a third world brothel complete with a bunch of military guys walking around naked. SO FML we now have to walk past the hall of dicks to get back downstairs. We decided to play a game of pool. Seriously you would think that these guys have never seen a hot girl topless. The guys were practically sitting on top of each other crowded around the pool table to watch my GF and I play a game of pool. Seriously no class and just starred at her like a pack of hungry wolves. She finally after an hour had all she could take and we got the hell out of there. She felt so awkward and violated that she was in tears after we left. Never in all my time visiting lifestyle clubs have I had such a terrible experience. I called on our way home to tell the MGNT about our experience and they said that there were 89 guys and 81 girls there that night. I believe that there were 89 guys for sure. But we only counted 7 girls including her. After hanging up I did the math. It was roughly $ 60 average per single guy and for couples. lets say that ¼ were couples. that means they made $ 8940. And that was a slow night. they are open 5 days a week. which comes out to well over 100k per month. There is no excuse for the extremely poor condition of the property, furniture, and the dirtiness of the rooms. Making that kind of money this place should have incense burning to make it smell good, new furniture/​décor and nice sheets. Fresh paint. Beautiful lighting, to set the mood, just a much classier environment overall. In addition, a much larger couples only lounge and weekend should be couples only period. Thats if they want to stop looking like a brothel and start being a place where beautiful women with class will want to come and feel sexy. I would not recommend this place to any couples or single girls looking to experience a real lifestyle club. While they may be the oldest and only licensed running lifestyle club in san diego they definitely do not represent the true value and positive experience of a life style club. To the club if they read this. Shut down and invest in your club. Remodel the business from top to bottom. Cater to your real lifestyle customers and not a bunch of horny single military guys looking for a quick lay. Create an environment that women will feel comfortable and sexy. I hope this review hits home and some real change happens. I’m ashamed that Thads represents san diego lifestyle. We deserve better.

This place is ghetto! Not really sure how law to explain it. From the outside it looks creepy. The yard isn’t kept up. There are sheets hanging in the windows as «curtains». They charge a fee to go in so I’m not sure where that is going. The lady at the front desk was pretty nice. While we were asking questions, as this was our first time here, a petite lady came up to the desk and was rude as heck. She was very short with us. We weren’t dressed in lingerie so we decided we will come back another time. Directly off the first room, you could see the «locker room». It reminded me in jr high gym class… until this guy walks by nude. Everyone had towels to sit on. Makes me think the place isn’t so clean. The mandatory nude/​lingerie thing is not cool. It’s forced. In this type of lifestyle, it’s very important that you feel comfortable in every aspect. Having that kind of dress code and attitude does the opposite. Just from the first room and outside it looked like the place isn’t kept up. Oh also when we walked in you could smell food (?) and b.o.

Why does Thad’s have men pay but single women and couples get in for free?
This is a weird form of selective treatment and discrimination. Either everyone gets in for free or everyone pays.
The member ship fees should be more fair, sorry for the rant.
Pros: This place has a legacy.
its safe and fun nice people good layout; private places and interesting props
cons: Men way outnumber women.

Can anyone say sausage fest?
Makes for interesting water cooler moments.
When Biff asks what you did over the weekend, you can shout from the mounatian tops:
I went to a sex club. oh wait you may want to keep that on thw down low.
Also men and women here are not airbrushed like the magazines.
Just saying???

THADS is very hit and miss when it comes to fun times. Some evenings you have a lot of people but not the right mix more males than females. Other evening you have only couples show and a lot of males. However when their on the right evening the mix of single guys, girls, and couples is excellent and good times to be had by all.

Warning, they let in unlimited amount of single male creepers into the establishment. Most of them are creepers who don’t know how to respect the no means no. If you bring your female partner, be prepared to be her bouncer, because the most butt ugliest creeper will try to get his way with her.

So after reading the reviews on Unilocal,I thought I’d give this place a shot. As I’ve lived in Japan before, walking around naked in front of other people isn’t really an issue for me… but in the end, after two nights (Friday and Saturday) of visiting, I don’t think I’ll really be going back.
Let’s start off with the positives:
If you’re looking for a nice, quiet place to slowly open yourself up to sexual experimentation with no pressure at all, Thad’s is perfect for you. The staff are courteous and helpful, and will take the time to chat with you about any questions you might have on, well, anything really… as will some of the guests!
Do not expect to be out of your ‘comfort zone’ while you’re at Thad’s. Nearly all the ‘play-​rooms’ in the house have locking doors, so if you’re not into the whole exhibitionist thing you can just drag your lover into the room and get it on nice and private.
The hot tub was probably the highlight of my visits, if mainly because hardly anyone was using it while I was there on either night. If large groups of people make you anxious, the hot tub is there for you. The food on Friday was ‘meh’…but Saturday they had a pot full of this OUTSTANDING pasta dish I just LOVED.
It was almost so good I’d give the place three stars just for serving it.
But that brings us to the negatives:
I’m 31 and openly pansexual, and have been to such exotic places as Thailand, Cambodia, Indonesia, and The Philippines; I’ve experienced a LOT, and so I figured going to a ‘swinger’s club’ like Thad’s would put me in touch with a lot of other people who might be on my level and into freaking it American Style.
WRONG. There are TWO categories of people who go to Thad’s, and I don’t fall into either one of them.
Swinging was really big back in the ‘60s and ‘70s, and from what I saw it seems like a lot of the people hanging out there when I arrived were probably hanging out there when swinging was actually a thing.
For a randy young buck like myself, it’s hard to have a hard-​on when you’re surrounded by people old enough to be your parents.
Then you have the newbies, which isn’t so bad because everyone was a newbie at some point in the sexual adventures… but for fuck’s sake, this is the information age. Do the fraggin’ research, people!
If you can’t take the time and effort to at least look up the website or browse the reviews on Unilocal,you’ll come thinking it’s going to be a patty-​cake princess party where we’ll all hold hands and tell each other how nice we all look, and you will end up being very, very surprised.
Most of the people I just described are the younger — probably Navy — girls, or they’re the poor girlfriends of the Navy boys who managed to talk them into coming out of curiosity.
They wear the most they can and have that look in their eyes you usually see in a deer’s eyes when you’re driving at night and come across one standing in the middle of the road; so you’re stuck with two extremes of sexual experience and maturity, personified by the sexually experienced being too mature in body and the sexually inexperienced being far too immature in mind.
In the end, Thad’s felt like one of the final Hippie Holdouts from The Great Long-​Ago that’s still managing to truck on along through the new century, where the Old Guard is still sleazing away as if the good old days never ended and the young kids go to try and see what this swinging thing’s all about… which is my final complaint:
I DIDN’T ACTUALLY SEE MUCH SWINGING GOING ON. Lots of people sitting around, yes, lots of couples who mainly had sex with each other and no one else, yes, but actual swinging? Actual exhibitionism? NONE.
The genuine freaks are dead, or they’ve all gone home.

Miss this place

TWO MANY DUDES, it is overwhelming! My husband doesn’t like being nude all the time. And the rule you can’t come back into the club sucks. Lastly but not least this place is a dump. It needed a cleaning 10 years ago the first time we were there. If you ever go to this place in the daytime, you’ll realize how filthy this place is! This is a gang bang palace, not a place for fun and erotic dancing and romance.

My wife and I had a great time and she enjoyed several GB’s. So, why only 3 stars? The place is greatly in need of some maintenance and, especially, cleaning. Do not walk around barefoot. There is one bathroom upstairs where the floor is so … all but missing, that I was nearly afraid to step into the room. Add to that holes in the walls and sticky spots (early in the evening — so not from recent play) on the carpets, and you get the idea.
Most of the people sat around on the patio socializing, occasionally going upstairs to one of the private rooms (which can be nice, with locks on the doors) — but that also mean very little swapping or group activities. After all, isn’t that why most of us go to these clubs?
A large number of the men seems afraid to play, just following couples around and watching. The exception being a group of 3 or 4 regulars who did not miss any change to play. Too many of the men had not brought condoms either, stupid.
It is nice that street clothes are not allowed in. The men have to be nude and the women must change. This made it more «open» than many other clubs.
Unlike other comments, the pool seemed clean and clear, and a few people were partaking of it on this hot night.
There were also a number of playrooms which opened onto the patio with large windows or sliding doors for voyeurism that were interesting.
We will go back when we’re in town.

I like that all you have to do is call for a reservation, then sign the rules sheet and you’re all set. What I like best is that the dress code is NAKED! Women can also wear lingerie. They allow 18+ and it’s not too far from Camp Pendleton, which means young Marines, so cougars will be in luck, usually. I struck out last time though, because only black men were there and followed me around and I was looking for young white Marines. So it can be hit or miss. I also struck out because it was mostly couples that night, even though it was a Saturday. Chubby chaser men will be in luck because most of the women there were fat or even obese. I saw some of them having to squeeze through the staircases. lol.
I like that the rooms upstairs are adequately lit and have locking doors, because some men walk around like dazed zombies and just barge in without knocking so be sure to lock it if you want privacy.
Staff wasn’t too friendly and this time, there wasn’t anyone keeping an eye on the parking lot and I had to walk back to my car alone in that creepy part of town at that late hour. Ugh. It didn’t used to be that way.
Food is so-​so. Some people have even gotten sick from it before, so I only go for fruits or cookies.
I didn’t like the coed locker area and the bathrooms were inadequate for the amound of people there, especially after they’re drinking. Shower areas were lousy, and not many people used them, which was unfortunate, because I smelled lots of armpit funk there. If I owned a swing club, I’d put showers up front just past the front desk, and require thorough showers to be taken before being admitted to the back of the club.
Also, there’s this towel rental ripoff of $ 4, for which you could just buy a bath towel at Kmart on sale. Rubbers are furnished, but K-​Y isn’t, and I felt a bit awkward carrying my tube of it around.
The uncut gents might get more action if they retract their foreskins.

We went on a Thursday night and it was a little quiet. I’m sure it’s probably a lot more fun on a Friday or Saturday. The space is huge, you can ‘play’ in a variety of locations some private (with doors) and others are open to various extents. Outside there is a pool (not heated), hot tub and fire place. I spent a lot of time in the hot tub and by the fireplace — both were super relaxing to enjoy nude under the stars. The staff is super friendly — Bree showed us around and made us feel very welcome, she gets 5 stars all on her own.
I rated this as 3 stars because there wasn’t much happening, not because of the venue. By the time we left there were close to a dozen guys and two women. To the guys’ credit they were mostly attractive, mid thirties and fit. It wasn’t what I had been expecting to see. There was no pressure and the other patrons nice but it seemed like most were intent on watching the TV (porn) instead of striking up conversation.
Bonus — there is a pool table which could be used as an ice breaker and an opportunity to get a little flirty without obligation to go past your boundaries.
If we were in the area on a weekend night, I’d go back and check it out again.

Mmmm I love this place. So much to look at… All the D a girl could want. I also love you can BYOB… after a few drinks I hop on all the poles… stripper poles that is.

It’s a great place to have meet open minded people, have a few drinks (but the place is BYOB so take note!), and if you want, do some bedroom aerobics. It’s also probably the only swingers club around that allows single guys to come in. There’s no pressure to have sex if you don’t want to, I have been coming her for about a year now and haven’t obliged much more than interesting conversation :)
The Thad’s house is pretty interesting. First you go into the lobby to pay up and announce who you are on the guest list. Then you go into the locker room, take off your clothes and any cell phones/​wallets. The rest of the house is yours to explore… there’s a pool table, small dance floor (complete with stripper pole), a bar area, a kitchen (with snacks and usually fried chicken), an outdoor patio area for smoking with bungalow rooms, including a massage room, a pool house, pool, and jacuzzi. The entire upstairs of the house is divided into big rooms for group games and little rooms for one-​on-​one, and a large couples only area as well.
If you’re a girl and you’re horny, chances are more than one military guy will jump at the chance. And you don’t have to worry about him outstaying his welcome in your bed! And if you’re a guy, quite honestly its like everywhere else you try to pick up chicks– most of the time Thads is pretty even on the man/​woman ratio, but other times it can be a virtual sausage fest.
The other thing to note, although woman on woman action is okay, there is virtually no man on man action. At least I have never witnessed it.
The –1 star is for the guys that don’t understand the rules. Please read them and follow them (they can be found on the website). Just because you go into Thad’s doesn’t mean you’re going to get laid. You have to think of it as a big house party with a cover charge. Just because the girls are naked or almost naked doesn’t mean you can just touch them anywhere and everywhere you want, or make creepy dumb comments. Like everywhere else, you have to have some GAME to get the ladies, its just a lot easier to get them into bed.
Oh and another thing, if you’re like me and too lazy to do the hike up and down to Black’s Beach for naked sunbathing, Thads is open on Sunday afternoons and a lot of women like to lay out by the pool au naturale.

Thad’s is a fun place to go if you’re confident, talkative or mischevious.
Oh and if you like to be naked!
I’ve been going here for years, but have never actually «swung». They have been dressing the place up lately with themed rooms and decorations that are nice {think Marilyn, Bettie, demons with curves}. The atmosphere is unpredictable, but most times that’s a really good thing. I wish they would have a DJ more often, but for the price {single ladies: free} I can’t complain. A lot of military men. Pool table. Swimming Pool. Jacuzzi. Kitchen with «picnic» style eats. Bar. Dance floor w/​pole etc. Patio for smokers. BYOB.
A great place to unwind. or wind it up.