OkCupid

If this was a couple of years ago, I would have made this 4 stars. Okcupid used to be better. You used to be able to see deleted messages, everyone who viewed your profile, sent messages, etc. In order to access these old features you need to now pay. Moving on to Okcupid in the present time though…
For the free dating sites I’ve tried, this is the best one. Many of the random questions they ask you actually do have some merit such as how long you want your next relationship to last, what you would do if your partner got fat, and if you have ever cheated on been cheated on. Some are plain stupid like things about a nuclear war and about household plants LOL. You also aren’t that heavily moderated with what you say.
I don’t think I’ve met that many guys off Okcupid. I also don’t think I responded to that many either. When I did hold conversations with guys, they were fairly normal conversations. Just didn’t go anywhere I suppose.
One suggestion I would have for Okcupid. I admit this is probably racist but I don’t care. It would save a lot of time if could have a setting where ONLY certain people of religions/​races/​ages can even view your profile. Another suggestion would be to also not make yourself view-​able to people within a certain amount of miles. Most of my messages come from guys over 2 hours away from me or guys out of the country.
Oh yeah one more thing. I’ve had like 3x my profile got removed without being told the reason why. I would just get told «technical difficulties» but I knew that wasn’t the case. I think some people report you if they think you are a troll (I cannot help it that I’m sexy!).

Ok Cupid
I really think this should be called Ok Catfish.
I did my civic duty and joined almost every dating app that I could find. OKC was one of them and it was something else.
You make a profile and play this game. I dunno, it’s almost like an aptitude test or something. Questions are aksed and you respond. Then when you search for a lover. It shows a percentage on how much of a match you are. I’m like WTF dude?
So after I set up my profile, I browsed a bit. Maybe a day or so, I got hit up. Any dating sites I ever used, I never contact any females first. I do things differently, I’ll let them contact me. Because they know what they’re getting into beforehand. So it cuts out all the guessing and stuff.
From my personal experience, OKC has a tremendous amount of people trying to catfish a fool. Yeah the hustle is on an crackin. I’ll get a message then all of a sudden. I’m asked for my email or go to their website. I’m like I’m hella good off that. So that’s how I filter out them fools.
The dates (OKC)
Almost all the dates have been something else. My first date brought her friends (4) along with thier Men. We went out to Chili’s and hit the bar for some drinks and appetizers. When it was time to pay for my tab. The amount was hella money. My dates entourage ran up a pretty big bill. So I paid my portion along with my date. Then shook the spot, only to be followed out the door by them fools.
Telling me since «I’m the Man, I need to pay for everything». I’m like Nope. They couldn’t pay because none of them brought any money. I’m like «It’s not my problem». I felt a little bad because my date came up to my car asking to help her pay it all off. And she didn’t know that her friends were going to do this. I said sorry and drove off. I don’t get played.
Another time date. Some chica hit me up that has four kids. I wasn’t tripping since I have three. But what got me tripping, was she lied to me about her age. I thought women say they’re younger not older! ?!? She was actually 24 but on her profile it said 29. She told me «because young guys her age don’t want a women that young with hella kids». That’s why she dates older guys. But older guys dip out with the quickness. Yeah she had some issues going on.
So at Starbucks for our meet and greet. She asked me if all my kids were by the same mom. I gave her my answer and asked her the same question. She said does it matter? I said well if you’re going to ask me a question. Then I’m going to ask the same question back. Then she flipped the F out on me. Telling me, I better not judge her and this and that. Going on and on, telling me she always meets the wrong guy. Then she gets pregnant and leaves. Oh man OKC is all bad.
The only positive that came from OKC. I met this painter chick. She was actually pretty cool. At the time she didn’t have any drive. So the time we spent together, I was always motivating her. Her only income was selling her paintings on eBay or locally. So I was trying really hard to help her get a job. All she knew was art and never had a job in her life outside of art. She was in a similar situation like myself. Losing a lot in a short period of time. That’s why we clicked right away.
So I took her shopping and bought her some clothes for interviews. Giving her leads wherever I see someone hiring. Then the call came for an interview. The best part of it, was seeing her smile when she got her first interview and the job. I’ll never forget that moment.
You never know what to expect when you meet people. That’s why I’m always open to meet interesting people all the time. It felt great to help someone out.
Sincerely VD.

I met my primary partner on OkCupid 5 years ago. Since then I’ve met and dated dozens of lovely polyamorous kinksters, burners, transqueers, and other intense individuals. More recently the site has become fairly mainstream but it is still the best place to meet people like you. Weather you’re looking for whips and chains or the nice Christian girl next door or some combination thereof. It’s a tool, not magic. If you figure out how to use it correctly you’ll be well rewarded.

Dating Website Reviews:
OkCupid is a free dating and social networking website which features member-​created quizzes and supports various modes of communication: personal blogs, public forums, instant messages, emails, and «winks».
Review in a nutshell:
50% Fantastic/​50% Creeptastic
(which, sadly, makes it one of the BETTER sites)
First the Creeptastic part:
Having a profile on OkCupid is sort of like snowmobiling in the Alaskan tundra… and then the snowmobile flips over… pinning you underneath… at night the ice weasels come. (That is what it is like getting emails and IMs on this site.) Here is why:
The main problem with this site, just like
and
, is that it puts no limit on the number of Emails or IMs a person can send out in a day. This is like blood in the water to the sex predators, internet trolls and hustlers. Both groups will send out TONS which overwhelms the inboxes of many people REAL FAST! This effectively scares a lot of good folks (particularly women) off the site and overshadows people legitimately looking for seriously relationships (not STD producing sex, a meal ticket, or a «mark»)
Here is the Fantastic Part:
Okcupid has public questions section where people publicly answer questions about a myriad of subjects. For example:
Is it ever okay to cheat on your spouse:
A. Never
B. Only under certain circumstances
C. Only If I don’t get caught
D. Heck yeah! All the time!!!
This saves TONS of time in figuring out who to reply/​contact and who to «block» fast!
And it has very interesting articles, such as, «Stuff white people like»
Asnswer: Food and Heavy Metal
(yeah…they pretty much nailed us)
Overall I say: Give it a shot. Its free!