Adam Weiser, MD

This urologist did not meet my needs, physically hurt me and offended me. I arrived with moderate pelvic pain of a month’s duration that had at times gotten so intense as to double me over. I also arrived with a 2-​hour old CT scan that showed 5 kidney stones and with a 2-​day old urinalysis from another Dr. that showed protein in my urine. I have a past history of kidney stones caused by a tumor on my parathyroid, all of which had to be surgically removed. So these stones were apparently new developments, which is cause for concern. Well, he acted like he was «trying» to be polite, as if it were this difficult thing to do. But in fact he acted instantly incredulous at everything I told him. He chopped off my sentences with premature acknowledgements, as if he already knew what I was going to say. He made mocking, petulant, slighting remarks about my other doctor. There was contempt in his voice. While he was acting this way, he performed an exam in which he was unnecessarily rough on a very sensitive part of my female anatomy that later bled and stung when I went to the bathroom. His rough handling of it caused me to cry out involuntarily in pain — he quickly finished the exam as if this was all he needed to know. Then he summed up that there was no reason for my pain, except I was just «not limber enough» and «needing to stretch» my pelvic muscles to make them «more balanced». I was like «really???» Come on, I’ve had those exams before, and they weren’t like that. He said he’d send the urine sample he’d just collected that had blood in it to the lab, but didn’t feel it was really necessary. And he just kept on — he started making remarks about «Hippie Boulder Weirdo Chiropractors» (my primary care Dr and chiropractor are in Boulder, CO). I was courteous to him out of social habit, begged off and left. But once I got out of there, I realized I felt upset and violated, that he had really made me feel bad both physically and emotionally while playing God with me and in fact refusing to help. Is this the kind of care you want? I just don’t get the impression he respects people or their ideas very much. I know, first-​hand what kidney stones can do to you. He could have checked Parathormone or ordered an IVP or come up with a plan to get rid of them. Instead he patronized me like I was some kind of liar, trivialized my symptoms, and arrogantly misbehaved. For this I pay money?